THE PAIN OF LIVING
Living is risky. It puts us in front of the unknown and the security of our choices. Inevitably, we find pain. The pain of living is not just any pain, like a toothache or a terrible pain from kidney stones. The pain of living is more like the pain of labor, with moments of peace and serenity, between one contraction and another, followed by trebles of suffering that hit the soul. Unlike labor, we don't know when the next slap will come. We just know that nothing is right and definitive. Much less do we know the face or why of things that happen. This is the human condition.
Unlike body aches, the pain of living has no manual to be solved. On the contrary, "the cure for pain is in pain," writes Rumi. It is by entering pain and allowing it to lead us to the sense of its presence that a light opens up for us. It's a discovery that allows us to progress and heal. Healing is represented by birth, which happens several times in a lifetime: every time that we allow ourselves to change, to revise mental models, to question our beliefs, and to assume once again the risk of living: to make a mistake, to not know, and to lose. The fear of discovering that we are not capable, or the risk of separating with our ineptitude, lack of response and attitude. Who are we, anyway? Do we know ourselves?
The Nineteenth-century Austrian writer. Marie von Ebner-Eschenbach, wrote that “Pain is the great master of men. Under your breath, souls develop." The whisper of the soul is not always clear and even when the direction is taken, there is still the world to face. The pain of living is then the process of maturation of the soul, the slow growth of the light of consciousness, of fine perception, of sharp vision, of the purified understanding of already useless diseases and already limiting prejudices. Einstein said that it is easier to destroy an atom than a prejudice. The transformation process of prejudice hurts because old mentalities and habits resist death when obsolete, imminent or progressed in life, blocks, or individual and collective development. For the transition to take place, pain is needed.
Only great souls know how to embrace the pain of living. A small heart does not sleep, because it produces strong sleep, "the most solid character is covered by scars". (Khalil Gibran) Knowing how to live without pain is one of the greatest things that she is reborn stronger.
Regretting and dragging on in suffering is not facing the pain of living, but on the contrary, it is a way to escape from the real pain, it is resistance to life and its risks. "To be" demand and, therefore, require the development of courage to accept the undertaking, even in the face of the incident and unknown.
Holding a torch-lit with the light of conscience, as told in a dream by Jung, we developed a journey and then the only way to face the pain of living, as Chico Buarque sings in "Good advice", "go out and drink the storm ", because "it is useless to sleep because the pain does not vanish".