• Adriana Tanese Nogueira

THE VALUE OF MONEY AND THE ADDICTION TO MONEY


It has happened to me several times to observe that it is often the people who have less money and possessions, or who have learned to lead their lives without great expense, in simplicity, are the most generous. These are the people who know how to put themselves in the other's shoes and understand their needs without the other having to verbalize, having to ask. These are the people who do not do charity because they know how to be supportive. They know the meaning of the word 'solidarity' and see others not as potential enemies who want to take advantage of them or as people whose survival needs “have nothing to do with them”, but as other human beings.

Having learned to live with little humanization guarantees enormous freedom, unknown to others. We all know that we live in the world of consumption, which in psychoanalysis translates as a world where the wills and whims of the ego need to be attended to, and possibly “now!”. There are complaints everywhere about this reality and many seek the path of spirituality to overcome this "disorder" of modern times, but the real-life remains the same. The ego does not give up its vices because it heard an enlightening lecture or made a "deep" retreat because what is at stake is an attachment that escapes this "conscience" which, even, serves to better camouflage it. Alcoholics say so!

Attachment to money has nothing to do with recognizing the value of money. On the contrary, it is an addiction that sustains well-hidden and protected neuroses from becoming aware, as they are in tune with those of our times. Giving value to money means not wasting money because as a great renegade said, the money earned corresponds to the lifetime that we dedicate to getting it, and life is greater than working for money. Life would be a creative and creative process - which is productive work that has nothing to do with accumulating money.

Attachment to money, as well as attachment to alcoholic beverages, a theme that occupied my studies a lot and led me to write the book "The Alcoholism Virus. When love finds its shadow", dehumanizes relationships, stiffens its faithful in prejudices , shrinks the brain, and closes the heart. The other and the situations become means: means to earn money or means to drink. In the race for money (or a full glass) you forget to live, to smell the roses along the way, to be enchanted by the new and the unknown, to open your chest to the courage to be, without crutches.

Those who have learned to live with little have another advantage over others: they have faith. They know, from experience and not from recited mantras, that it is “one day after another”, that life holds many surprises over which we have no control, some good challenging ones. The sacrifice of some goods and treats does not weigh on them because they have other happiness, other serenity.

Living to earn money and, between the lines of that anxiety, doing something "good" to blur the discomfort and conscience, inevitably leads to fear of losing, potentiating attachment in an ever more neurotic vicious circle, where the great sacrifice that is fulfilled - the worst and saddest of all - is the freedom to be.

Owning things and not owning themselves is the fate of those attached to money.

Serenity can only be found in simplicity.

Physical, mental, emotional simplicity.

Simple does not mean poor. Humble also does not mean poor, as is wrongly understood in Brazil.

The simple comes only after we overcome the complicated.

And the tricky thing today is learning to let go of money to make humanity evolve to new heights and thus create a human world in harmony with the rest of the creatures.

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